Key Essential Skills in Life

Dr. John Townsend

November 12, 2017

When looking at neuroscience and performance research, I find two groups of skills sets are necessary for success in life.

The first is “task skills.” These are the “doing” aspects, like making goals and forging a path to success.

The second is “people skills.” These are the “relating” aspects, which center on creating inspiration and healthy culture for those around you.

As research continues to come out, it is increasingly important for you to learn several specific “people abilities” which drive everything:

Here are the Top 3:

  1. Listening well: All too often, we let people talk. But in our minds, we are formulating our response to them before they are finished. I often have my clients paraphrase what others are saying, asking, “Do I get your point of view now,” before they respond.
  2. Being vulnerable: Many times, we want to put up a shield so as not to show weakness. However, we find people are actually drawn more to a person who is open about their weaknesses and failures.
  3. Being direct: This is the ability, to be honest and emotionally present at the same time. It is more difficult than you think. Learn to keep your eye contact and your connectedness, even during the tough talks.

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